LET THEM & LET ME
In January, Mel Robbins published her new book.
The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About
I preordered my copy of The Let Them Theory on Audible as a Christmas Gift to myself.
I must confess I have listened to the book in spurts. I have listened to several chapters over as I drive around town picking up my kids, running errands, and going places. It’s an excellent reference for when we talk about BALANCE | Mental Load because Mel shares her research on proven strategies, coping mechanisms, and programs that have helped her on her journey.
The Let Them Theory
A Resource to Help Balance Mental Load!
I grew up in the 70s and 80s like Mel and I can really relate to her stories. While I have worked on my balance, I am now working on Mel’s way of putting it, LET ME.
LET ME
When we put the focus on ourselves during a moment of stress, frustration or overwhelm, we have an opportunity for a present moment awareness and a healthy thought.
When I’m pausing and asking myself, “How am going to respond to this situation?” Mel recommends we pause and sit with our emotion for a few minutes. Mel’s research explains the science behind emotions. When we feel our emotions and sit with them until they pass, we can handle the feeling effectively. This practice takes us out of our head and into our body allowing us to be grounded in the present moment. Present moment awareness helps us balance mental load. The best part about this practice is that emotions only last about 90 seconds (minute and a half) from the 6-second chemical reaction in our brain to the feeling that lasts less than 2 minutes. Instead of stuffing our feelings inside and continuing to be a human doing. We can access our center, feel the ground under our feet, understand emotion is a chemical reaction and feel. Easier said than done most times if we are in defense mode, reactive or faced with a challenging situation or behavior from another.
Whether it’s journaling, reading, or talking to a friend, we can prepare to encounter challenging situations and behaviors. Think about the following:
What am I going to do?
What boundaries have I established with the people in my life?
Are my boundaries high enough?
Are my boundaries clearly stated to allow me to disengage from their behavior?
How do I take care of myself?
How do I look at my part on a moment by moment basis?
What tools do I need in my tool box to cope?
Listening to MEL
I am learning more about myself
reflecting on my part…
Mel’s pragmatic and honest approach is refreshing and filled with stories from her life. Her book continues to help me look at myself and my part, as she reflects on her life, her behaviors, and her growth.
I put on my new set of glasses after reading “The Let Them Theory” to see all of the things that happen with me when I experience unexpected, unwelcome, unpleasant, and sometimes hurtful moments.
my thoughts
my energy
my instincts
my actions/reactions
my words
When I encounter events, people, or things that take me out of balance and impact my mental load, I am trying my best to examine the following for each situation. The process of identifying these moments help bring clarity. If I can bring myself to journal about the experiences, I find behavior patterns, forgiveness, gratitude, understanding, rest and love.
Great news for Mel Robbins!
Her book, The Let Them Theory, has reached #1 Book in the World.
The Let Them Theory is a publishing phenomenon. With almost 4 million copies sold in 12 weeks, and #1 in sales across every major bestseller list, it’s the biggest success in its category in 17 years.
I started this blog post in October when I ordered the book and here we are it’s May 16, 2025. Thanks for reading. –Sherry
BALANCE | Mental Load — Take in Mel’s book and LET THEM!